relationships???????????????

We can habitually witness folks talking about relationships. Some populace value their relations and a few ill-fated ones don’t. Even I had my own take on relationships. Few months back, if any one would have asked me what is relationship all about, my answer would have been the way crow flies; RELATIONSHIP IS ALL ABOUT A WALL STANDING ON FOUR PILLARS: TRUST, RESPECT, UNDERSTANDIING AND ADJUSTMENT.
How ethical and justified it reverberates. And I know most of us will see eye to eye with my this take on relationships. Trust is the first and fore most things which plays the root of any relation. Then comes respect, for a relation to prolong respect among individuals is very indispensable. Third pillar, understanding. In relation the saying, SOME THINGS ARE BETTER NOT SAID BUT UNDERSTOOD must always hold true. And finally comes adjustment, to live a contented life perpetually one or the other has to fine-tune somewhere for their much-loved ones. And hence the recipe for perfect relation. Sounds so effortless, wish our life would have been simple in the same way.
As time grows, people become skilled. Even I had petite experiences, terrific ones and terrible ones, which made me alter my previous deliberation about relationship. After a diminutive expedition, I found out that sometimes even the greatest relations may not consist of above four pillars or sometimes even these four pillars cant make the relations great. Then what is the mania or the perfect recipe for a long everlasting relation, in whose search most of the people are.
Few people are in relation for pleasure; few are in relation for the sake of other person, the other left ones don’t even know why they are in relation. Most of them don’t know how long will they carry with the relation, others don’t want to think about it and the left ones make plans of beautiful nurturing relationship.
All and sundry wants someone or the other to share their happiness with, sadness with or in short to create a bond which lasts forever. But what can really make the bond last forever? What can make the relations nurture instead of breaking up. The question still remains the same………………………what’s the recipe for A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP

the angel and the devil.......

Angel is always regarded as the genuine fellow and devil is regarded as its ghastly counterpart. I still have down pat with the fairy-tale enlightened by my granny about the wrestle between the angel and the devil, and in the end, the guardian angel winning by conquering the devil. I always used to wonder why always angels triumph and devils loose, and out of curiosity used to query this to my granny. She was always geared up with the answer and a smirk. Smile was warm and answer was pleasing telling me the basic equation of life, that in the end everything goes good or the angel has to win and if the angel doesn’t win, it’s not the end. Jingles very filmy………..as most of us presuppose, but REALITY IS STRANGER THAN FICTION. Then how can anecdotes be totally diverse from veracity???????
Leave-taking from all this and returning back to our topic. As I nurtured up, I comprehended that the angel and the devil were just not constrained to chronicles of granny. But they do exist in apiece entity.
Every human being has two elements. A good part-angel and a bad one-devil. This need not be attested by any verification as in our day to day life we see many such episodes which proves the statement, that within us lies a angel and a devil. In our life, it has happen countless times that our friends ask for something which is cherished by us, and then we launch conversations within ourselves whether to give or not. At that time we think of pros and cons of giving thing. But in the end we understand that our friends need that thing so leaving all deliberation aside we give it.
This is nothing but a very fair instance of wrestle between an angel and devil within us. The angel always endeavors to take us to our legitimate and unadulterated part, and devil tried to deviate us from the same. In the consequences, I already mentioned, the fight between the two starts. If the angel be triumphant, we help the other person and try to make him pleased and if the devil wins, our selfish part takes hold of us and hence taking us far-flung from better side of us.
This way our life is jam-packed with consequences where we have to deal with diverse situations where we often get into dilemma. This is nothing but the fight between the angel and the devil within us, and it totally depends on us, to make who win. Devils obviously take the short cuts, different ways to win. But where the happiness lies is in the winning of angel. We just have to wide awake and know where angel within us lies and to make him win under any circumstances, eventually to be an enhanced personage. And until unless we are admirable to others, we are not supposed to expect marvelous ness from others. KNOW YOUR ANGEL AND MAKE IT WIN.

when in love.........

Falling in love is amazing, falling in love is exquisite………only those who are in love can discern the real gist of love and those who are not in love will for obvious rationale, fall in love one day………so this post is just for every mortal in love, in the offing to be in love or not waiting to be in love……….
When in love, a personage is in seventh heaven. The smile on your face, the façade and its grace, all are worth noticing, as full of glory and charm. In love there always subsist two phases a blissful one and a gloomy one……….leaving the miserable phase of flouting apart, just jotting down the sad phase when the relation is in full swing.

The joyful part is far from indulgence of this world.
One plunks in the worst day of life and still smiling having the contemplation of their dearly loved, parents reprimanding for talking on phone for hours but still the gaze is at the cell phone and hands just waiting to pick the phone up, hates going outside in summer but when the beloved calls, jus running as if there is no sun or not heat. Expecting watch to get rapid so that you can meet him early. Dressing to our best as if the person is looking for the first time, and then waiting for that complement. Coming back home and thinking about the meet for entire night with those digging eyes on cell phone for the call to fix on when will the subsequent meeting take place………….the world seems gorgeous, with no tribulations, and if problems, they doesn’t matter. Just blushing all the way. This was the good part of being in love.
But until unless there is no villain in the story, story seems unexciting. So if there is good part, there has to be appalling part.
Bad part launches when you call your beloved and his cell is on waiting, you call yet again but still on waiting. You ask him to meet but he can’t meet just because he is busy. Sometimes when he is not there to listen just because he had a hectic day, when you want to talk something special and he starts talking about the split seconds spent with x. He doesn’t commit to memory about what you said though you might also forget many things. ……………..and the list goes on…….
This is love, far yet so in the vicinity of, bizarre yet so happening. ……..aching yet remedial…………….its just amazing.

first time

First time…………first time for anyone is very special, be it bestowed to anything
First rains, I am sure, most of us just love that feeling of first rains, first crush, it can fashion the butterflies in anyone’s tummy, first love, what an immense sentiment, watching a baby smiling or walking for the first time………these all things really can bring smile on the facade of anyone, and being the first ones to happen, the happiness is unsurpassed.
Everyday in life we get to witness or experience something new-fangled. Some experiences are bitter ones but some are just worth remembering for the life time, or worth being the first time.
Moments come, moments go……..what are left behind, are reminiscences. You can cry or regret remembering those moments or can feel happy that you were part of those moments, thus cherishing them for entire life……
Even I believe in welcoming every moment or jiffy in life and esteem its beauty, because I know that the only thing constant in life is changes. What you have today, you might not have tomorrow, so no regrets, no qualms. Just live, laugh, enjoy as if there is no tomorrow…. Smile throughout your path of life, holding tight the memories of each first time…THE SPECIAL FIRST TIME

show that u care

Some populaces in our lives are so much imperative, you not only miss them in their absence but the bliss you feel in their charisma can never be measured.
In my life I have quite a few people who hold that kind of out of the ordinary position in my life, just contemplated of bestowing today’s post to them.
To be a bit philosophical life is a voyage; or if we go by what Shakespeare said LIFE IS A STAGE AND WE ALL ARE ACTORS……..
In this expedition or on this stage, we find many counterparts, few good, and few more good and left out few ones are most good. Saying bad about no one just because I think that no one is bad, u just need to ascertain their better side, leaving this aside and getting back to the subject matter (I have a bad habit of deviating from main topic…loll). The counterparts we find sometimes become so close to us that we ourselves never know the magnitude they hold till the time they are with us, but as soon as they depart we know that they do make some appreciable percentage of our life or they are the ones giving us rationale to smile.
Continuing this , everyone sees in a liaison are loads of ups n downs, but I must say these ups and downs should be there not only to make relation strong but it also adds spice to life. Jus envision how boring a life would be if we have no problems, nothing to think, nothing to cry for or nothing to feel happy for…..
Wandering through these ups n downs sometimes what we overlook is that the people who are close to us may sometime need the care to be shown by us. Sometimes feelings are not enough, what are required is utmost care, fondness and showing what you feel.
Its often said that sometimes some things are better not said but understood, but what I would state here is its well again to say the things you feel like or its better to tell the special people in your life, that what importance they hold……. understanding is of course the key factor but sometimes you need to show the tenderness, the care………trust me it would do no harm, but will make the relationship more strong….and the people, your near n dear ones would simply love it.
So go ahead and show everyone you care for that you really love them, you really need them, they are the people who make your life beautiful….they are the essence of your life.

don wanna mak ny1 hurt........still.......

Making someone cry will be the final thing anyone would like to do. And yeah I am no bizarre, so always endeavor not to hurt anyone anytime.

Life is nutty, crazy… someone asked me to delineate life few days ago in some slam book (as we are supposed to fill as we are in final year) so I am trying to do it….. Now tacit how intricate it would have been for scientists to define few terms or I should say that about those theories and postulates they have put to the fore.
The most widespread dialogue I have heard in recent times is………”WHY DOES IT ALWAYS HAPPENS WITH ME”………and yes everyone knows that there is nothing diverse happening with them but with every 3rd person. In life we be keen on someone, we get love from many people…..and the circle goes on, I don’t know whether to censure destiny, god or myself for this thing but after a blissful day ,night always draw closer. Night is always welcomed from my side, I like watching moon n stars but few people can’t sustain without sunlight. And still they fill their life with darkness.
The nastiest condition is when you know someone very well, and that person is getting snuffle in your eyes because of you or as I mentioned before that you are held conscientious for creating shadows in life of someone who can’t sustain without sunlight, even if you are not doing any such kind of thing…..how would it feel???????
Same thing happened to me, not once, not twice……….it happens every blue moon. Surviving through difficult times with that constant smile on my face, neglecting smaller things , shocking things, uncouth things, hassles, gossips, rumors, taunts, ……… I never knew when it became my nature. The only thing I knew was just live your life the queen size. Do what you yearn for, speak what you crave, because those who matter won’t mind and those who mind doesn’t matter. I do everything to make myself in high spirits at the end of the day until unless someone gets hurt because of me and still I end up being a rationale of tears in eyes of few people.
Although I utter I don’t care for world, let them be, but seeing tears in eyes of someone wounds me a lot as well. I hope for them to stop crying, I want everyone to b happy around me or not in the region of me but what if they will smile only at the cost of my tears???????
What I m supposed to do then, cry to make them happy or jus let them crying for entire life…………don’t know, stuck again……….and this situations makes me say now.....”WHY DOES IT ALWAYS HAPPENS WITH ME”

friends.....n cloud of misunderstanding

Friends ………. enlighten us how to subsist, how to be in high spirits even when misery environs and yes many more things beautiful in life, and sometimes even the bitter and sour truths. Today’s post is dedicated to two of my friends………..
When we are in a faction of three acquaintances it generally happens that we share a generally different equation with both the friends discretely. Both of them are close to us, both r right, both r closes, near and dear ones. But sometimes it happens that the clouds of misunderstanding envelop us, though I may be out of that fuzz but if I see the state of affairs more apparent my friends are covered by that cloudy fuzz, then how can I be out of it.
Misapprehension arouses when any liaison nurture up. With times as we be acquainted with any person better, we know the good and dire of that person. Good is always reasonable to ears and what about the bad stuff? Few people like me have no interest in bad stuff but a misunderstanding is the key words.
That’s what happened between my two friends, who were equally close to each other. Two diverse people, both accurate at their own places. Very much different by nature still together from longer time. But now the charisma of one seems nuisance for another. Big throbbing for me, as both are equally treasured to me. Tried to listen to both of them, trying to suppress hatred in both of their mind, but the outburst, much awaited happened.
I told one of them to talk directly with the other one, so that the seed of hatred in his mind dies before reaping, but that dint happen.
The abhorrence seems even more clear now, tried telling them to excuse n overlook….its all between friends, but as usual things are never in my hands.
Want them to be together again, cant do it, don’t know y…..well, this time actually reminds me of the saying that more u try to hold desert sand in your hand the more it slips………